Family estrangement is becoming increasingly common, prompting experts to explore its causes. A survey by YouGov in 2025 revealed that 38% of U.S. adults are estranged from at least one family member, such as siblings, parents, children, or grandparents.
Dr. Richard L. Blake, a British psychologist based in Austin, Texas, identifies key factors contributing to these fractured relationships:
Political and Value Differences
A study involving over 2,000 mother-adult child relationships indicated that “value dissimilarity” is a notable predictor of estrangement. Differing beliefs, including political values and gender ideology, can significantly contribute to family conflicts. Dr. Blake notes that individuals are more likely to sever ties over differing opinions than for past serious offenses.
Social Media Influence
Frequent use of social media has been linked to deteriorating parent-child relationships. A study of around 9,800 teens revealed that those spending over two hours daily on social media faced greater odds of having negative relationships with parents. Dr. Blake suggests that social media normalizes estrangement through viral “no contact” stories.
‘Therapy Culture’
The rise of “therapy culture” and changing perspectives on trauma may impact views toward parental ties. Some individuals justify estrangement for mental health protection. However, Dr. Blake argues that family bonds are crucial protective factors for mental well-being. He references a Minnesota study of adopted twins showing genetic resemblance to biological rather than adoptive parents and a 2024 study by Karsten Hank linking family estrangement with decreased life satisfaction and increased depressive symptoms.
Communication Breakdowns
Poor communication during conflicts can lead to lasting estrangement. Dr. Blake emphasizes the importance of active listening and calmly discussing disagreements. He warns against using “moralized language” like “abuse” and “toxic,” which complicate compromise. He advises parents to clarify such terms and focus on specific behaviors rather than personal judgments.
Outside Influences
External influences, including romantic partners and changing parenting philosophies, contribute to family estrangement. Dr. Blake points out that partners may hold sway, particularly for men, citing public figures like Brooklyn Beckham and Prince Harry. Disagreements on parenting styles between generations can also lead to rifts. Dr. Blake questions newer parenting approaches and suggests learning from grandparents’ methods.
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